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Yesterday I looked up blogs tagged "Father's Day" on Wordpress. I found some great stuff. I'm not talking "My dad is so great" blogs--I was specifically looking for the opposite kind of blogs, and I found some. One was about a gal who, like me, has found healing from fatherlessness through her marriage and through seeing her husband as a father to their children.

I posted it with a little short blurb about how I wish I could've written the blog, how I've found healing similarly, and how I know God's going to work it all out somehow. I didn't invite messages, but I got one. From my friend Felicia. That's momentous, but I can't explain it right now.

Anyway, she wrote to me some very touching, personal things that I won't relate here, but essentially, she's in the same place as I am: looking for healing.

So I got to write her back this totally cool, love-of-Christ-filled message back. And I managed not to come on too Christianese-y and cliche, which is actually kind of a big accomplishment. I think my heart is finally softening again to the place where I can write emotional, personal things to people, which is really important, because that's what'll change lives. Especially of my friends.

I just wanted to copy and paste one section of my e-mail. It's about my husband. <3 He's not a father yet, but through him, God has shown me His own love and begun the healing process of growing up fatherless.

I'm not at ALL totally healed, but Stephen has really been a gigantic blessing to me in that area. I've never met somebody who goes to such depths to show me love. I'm not talking flowers (he never does that, ha!). I'm talking, this guy, when I'm having my own little tornado mood storm, stay-away-or-I'll-kill-you moments, he sits me down and makes me talk about it until I get it all out. And he sits through all my temper tantrums and cat claws and loves me all the way through them. I do not deserve this and I can't find another way to explain it except that God has extraordinarily gifted Stephen to show Christ to me through him. Blows me away. Why would God do that?

And also this: I'm thankful for men who have been good fathers to their children. They thought only their own kids were watching, but others were watching too, and learning vicariously that God hasn't abandoned humanity to itself. So thankful.

<3 Stephanie

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